I’ve had significant others ranging in height from 5’4” to 7’0”. I know from experience that there’s nothing wrong with dating someone of a different height—even a radically different one. It’s never stopped the rich and famous. Still, being with a partner who is noticeably different from you (especially if you’re a taller women with a shorter man) can earn stares on the street and bad jokes at parties. My current boyfriend is 5’10”, and our two-inch height difference grows considerably when I’m in heels. He says he loves having someone to “kiss up to,” and I’m grateful that he isn’t self-conscious or insecure about how other people will see us.
I realized years ago that if I limited my choices to people 6’0” and above, I’d be excluding a huge portion of my potential dating pool—how many incredible people might I miss out on by being height-ist? I understand that it’s not easy to buck the trend. It’s my hope that social norms concerning the “proper” height ratio for couples (and what they imply about “correct” gender roles for men and women) are beginning to change, but we still have a long way go.
What are your thoughts about dating someone of a different height? Do you use height to weed out a potential Mr. or Ms. Right? Is society ready to be height-blind?